Should I stay or should I go? Are you being trapped by your high salary?

Should I stay or should I go?

This is a question many of us mull over for many months, years or even decades. In my role as a career coach, I often hear executives use the term ‘golden handcuffs’ to explain their feeling of being tied to a job or lifestyle that affords them status and financial stability, even when it no longer provides a sense of happiness.

My expertise and experience tells me that if the term ‘golden handcuffs’ rings true to you then you’ve likely spent many hours lamenting your position. You feel tethered to your current situation because of relative financial and emotional safety.

There are always snippets of hope. Have you ever caught yourself lazing on your holiday sun lounger, allowing your mind and heart to open to the potential of life… without the shackles you have placed on yourself?

In these moments you may feel free, excited and hopeful. Then, as you return to work and fall back into the rat race, you again allow fear to be your operating model.

You revert to the status quo of living a comfortable lifestyle, with discomfort lurking beneath the façade.


Sometimes these uncomfortable feelings hang around because you don't yet have clarity on potential ways forward. As a career coach, I find clients regularly gain important insights by honouring themselves and diving deeper through questions that deliver lucidity.

These questions will provide answers, depth and intention around that all important question:

“Should I stay or should I go?”


13 Powerful Questions To Ask Yourself…

Give yourself some quiet unencumbered space to think and write down your answers, without interruption. I use these key questions in my coaching work to spark awareness, direction and shine light on the truth.

 1.    Do you wake up energised and raring to go to work?

Why or why not?

2.    How is your mental and physical health?

Is your wellbeing negatively affected by your work choices? How is your current work situation impacting on family and friends? What are the benefits that you and your family could receive if, instead, you followed your passion?

3.    Have you ever given yourself the opportunity to imagine, even visualise, the life you truly want? (Focus goes where energy flows.)

4.    What is your current mindset?

Are you coming from a scarcity mindset or an abundant mindset? What are all the things you have to gain by making a change?

5.    Are you being gentle on yourself? Letting go can be hard. Have you acknowledged and honoured those feeling? Are you looking at your thoughts as if you were a third person to gain some perspective?

6.    You have been successful in your current role. What positive traits could you amplify in a new position?

7.    Are there people waiting in the ranks, ready to do a kick-ass job in the position you no longer enjoy?

8.    What is the worst thing that could happen? What steps can you implement to cushion against this? (List these steps).


9.    Visualise 5 years from now.

Describe the scene:

1) If you stay


2) If you go and discover new possibilities


10. If a friend or family member was in this position how would you coach them through this question (‘should I stay or should I go')?

11. In times of change, it is really important to have a good group of supporters.

Who will be your supporters?


12. What legacy do you want to leave?

What example do you want to provide for your children about the life you lead? Not only in terms of any perceived job success but in terms of following your dreams, passions and being the person you want to be?

13. Could you engage a career coach to offer their experience and expertise? An objective and balanced viewpoint that takes into account your personality, skills and wishes can open up possibilities, smooth the way forward and help you to finally answer the important question, “Should you stay or should you go?”

We’ve been helping people — just like you — to uncover their right option. Should you stay in your current job? Are there strategies to boost happiness in your present role? Or do you need to make a serious change and seek out a new position?

If you could benefit from expert support and guidance, we are ready to help you.

Book an appointment today.

Empowering Your Career

"The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be". Quote by Ralph Emmerson a philosopher and leader of the transcendental movement in the mid 19th century.

Wow what a powerful quote that encapsulates how our everyday decisions shape the person/leader/entrepreneur we become.

I always get a little spring in my step when I remember I am the CEO of My Career and the architect of my life.

There is a great sense of freedom and empowerment that comes with knowing that I can make decisions to alter the direction my career/life takes and with that there must be a strong dose of responsibility, awareness and accountability.

It doesn’t matter if you are a CEO, a sole trader a corporate leader, a researcher, an analyst you can still be the CEO of your CAREER and the choices you make determine that person you become within your own business or within someone else’s business.

Yes, there are also many factors outside of your control, but it is how you meet those factors.

The above quote implies that we have responsibility to make conscious choices about the person we become. We can be and should be active participants in the decisions that shape our day to day lives.

It also celebrates the freedom we have in defining our own destiny and purpose. Within a corporation you can ask for a salary increase, you can ask for feedback on how to improve at your job, you can network strategically to become known in areas of the business that you are interested in potentially working.

Emersons words also suggest that personal growth and self-improvement are ongoing processes. It is suggesting that we be proactive in our pursuit of self-development.

This quote can also be helpful in times of adversity. When we need to lean in and face the challenges with a anti fragile mindset and know that we are strengthening our toolbox of resources each time we embrace a new challenge.

Who are you deciding to be today?

 Remember: You are the CEO OF YOUR CAREER. I'm happy to help! Book career coaching packages for you or your team today. Find out more in the website link or message me to discuss.

As we stand at the beginning of a new year, it's an opportune moment to reflect on our journey and recalibrate our compass. One powerful way to set the stage for a fulfilling and purpose-driven year is by aligning our actions with our values. 

The Power of Values Alignment: Our values serve as the guiding principles that shape our decisions, actions, and ultimately, our destinies. Starting the year with a conscious effort to align our goals and aspirations with our core values can have profound effects on our personal and professional lives. When we prioritize what truly matters to us, we lay the foundation for authenticity, fulfillment, and success.

 Dr. John Demartini, a renowned human behavior expert and author of "The Values Factor," emphasizes the transformative power of aligning our goals with our highest values. According to Demartini, true fulfillment arises when we identify and prioritize what is most important to us. He suggests that understanding our values is not just about making a list but delving deep into what brings us the most joy, passion, and a sense of purpose.

Demartini's Method for Values Clarification:

  1. Identify Core Values: Begin by reflecting on the aspects of your life that truly matter to you. What brings you the most joy, inspiration, and fulfillment? These are likely your core values.
  2. Prioritize Values: Once you've identified your core values, prioritize them. What is the most important value in your life right now? What is the second most important? Continue this process until you have a clear hierarchy.
  3. Align Goals with Values: With a prioritized list of values, align your goals for the new year accordingly. Ensure that your aspirations resonate with your core values, creating a powerful synergy between what you desire and what truly matters to you.

Benefits of Values Alignment:

  • Authenticity: Living in alignment with our values fosters authenticity, allowing us to be true to ourselves in all aspects of life.
  • Increased Motivation: Goals that align with our values are inherently more motivating and energising, propelling us forward with passion and determination.
  • Resilience: Values-aligned individuals tend to navigate challenges with greater resilience, as their actions are rooted in a deeper sense of purpose.

May 2024 be the year we not only set goals but live in harmony with our deepest values, creating a life that reflects our truest selves. Looking for some support to align your goals and values? Seeking accountability, insights or help uncovering and remembering your key strengths and how to translate these into different roles or companies? Who are you deciding to be today?

 Remember: You are the CEO OF YOUR CAREER. I'm happy to help! Book career coaching packages for you or your team today.

 Find out more in the website link or message me to discuss.

Thank you for being a part of our community. We value your presence and the trust you have placed in Pursuit Consulting. Let's make your career aspirations a reality!

Best regards,

Clare Phelan Director and Career Coach. Be The CEO of Your Career!

Pursuit Consulting